Do you wonder about what could have been? You are a victim of counterfactual thinking
Do you wonder about what could have been? You are a victim of counterfactual thinking
If you wonder what could have been, you are a victim of counterfactual thinking.
Who has not stopped to think about how their circumstances would have changed if, instead of taking a decision, they had taken another one.
For example, if we had accepted that job that promised so much abroad or if our partner had been that secret love of childhood.
Surely the majority has made some similar questioning.
These are hypotheses that are often accompanied by an idealization of the discarded reality, of what has come to pass.
It is the so-called counterfactual thought, which often occurs more in insecure people, who, feeling guilty for the choices made, meditate on them in the past, handling different scenarios for them, even touching the fantasy.
If you invest a lot of time in the past, the present is ignored, so we stop enjoying life.
Influencing some aspects and decisions of another time, can cause discomfort.
Although the fantasy, the assumptions of what could have been, can be used to alleviate this discomfort, in the long run it increases and masks it.
To face the temptation to ruminate unmovable decisions, I leave you three simple tips:
- Work forgiveness. Forgiving yourself for the actions that have been carried out and for which one repents and blames oneself.
To think that to err is of humans and we can not have such a long penance.
- When the counterfactual thought appears in our mind, consciously discard it to concentrate and directing thought towards the concerns of the present.
- Have an active leisure life and surround yourself with those people with whom we feel good.
Counterfactual thinking also works towards the future.
We can project ourselves to him by imagining how the things that matter to us will happen.
In this case we must be especially careful, since fantasizing about possible success could lead to inaction.
Insecurity would paralyze us, preventing us from making the right decisions.
On the other hand, fanciful verbalization about success, repeating aloud and before others that this and that will be achieved, can produce a similar effect.
It is said but it is not done. While there is no action, there are no achievements on the way.
In that case, the person may believe that he or she is worthy of something without being aware that getting it depends entirely on her.
Once again, covert insecurity appears as responsible for this type of actions.
It is a question of emotional intelligence, self-knowledge and management and management of our own decision-making.
Pilar Conde is Technical Director of Origin clinics
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